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Kati Kertesz's avatar

Very insightful, Jess. When you started, I wondered where you’d go.

I never had the motherly urge. I enjoyed holding and playing w my nieces and nephews. I even changed diapers. But the vomit. Ugh. No way. Line drawn. Lol.

And I was absolutely petrified of the birth process. “The ship’s too big and the bottle’s too small.”

Plus, I watched my mom have too many and my sisters struggle w single parenthood.

But a partner? That’s inevitable for me now. And I’m scared sh**tless. Oy vey.

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Jess Rinker's avatar

I can’t do vomit either but when I have had to hold Joe up when he’s been sick, I realized I can. Would I choose it—hell no. But it comes with love, when you want it to. It is terrifying, and whether it’s kids or a partner or anyone you have to care for that fear never really goes away. You just roll up your sleeves and get done what needs to get done. And then you reflect, which always makes things seem easier than it is. ❤️

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Kati Kertesz's avatar

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Gayle Brandeis's avatar

Thank you for this, dear Jess. Sending you and Joe so much love.

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Jess Rinker's avatar

Thank you, Gayle. <3

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Linda Williams Jackson's avatar

This is beautiful and poignant. Thank you for sharing.

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Jess Rinker's avatar

Thank you for reading. :)

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